Posted on March 20th, 2020

Mentors Are Essential For Your Business Success

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  • Entrepreneur
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Do you have a current frustration in your business, or a goal that remains out of reach? Perhaps it’s time to get a mentor. A fresh perspective might surprise you, and you might be stunned at how simple the solution can be. You just needed an objective point of view to discover it! 

I started my business about seven years ago and I used to doubt myself a lot. I used to think that I wasn’t good enough to do this business. 

I knew there were a lot of people out there who were doing a much better job than me. Oh, I had many qualifications, but other people were just much better at what I was doing. 

Does that sound familiar? 

A lot of it comes from social media, right? You see these people who are crushing it and standing in front of Lamborghinisshowing the results of their seemingly obvious success. It’s a mixture of feeling intimidated, envious and frustrated, and you begin to ask why you aren’t at that level of success yet? 

That transfers into your business, where you start comparing yourself to them.  

Your self-doubt and envy also bleeds into the operational aspects of doing your business: you feel like you’re not worth what you charge. 

You might think of charging less perhaps in a bid to attract more clients. Or maybe simply because you think you’re not at the level deserving of your previous higher rate. 

That’s insane. 

Mentors help you keep things straight

And by straight, I mean with regard to your mindset and motivation, not just the right and efficient way of taking your business toward success. 

When you just keep wallowing in self-doubt, it affects your business decisions (like lowering your rate!). Your business will suffer and you won’t make the revenue you want or need for financial growth. 

In turn, that will make you feel even more worthless. 

Step out of that vicious cycle. Find good mentors. 

Type of mentors

There are a couple of types of mentors: distance mentors and personal mentors. 

Distance mentors can be someone like Gary Vaynerchuk or Rand Fishkin– a celebrity or expert, maybe a micro-influencer in your niche. It can be anyone helpful, really, who speaks of your challenges and ways to solve them, but doesn’t have a direct relationship with you.

Personal mentors are coaches who support you directly. You have a one-on-one relationship with them, and they coach you through your blind spots while also helping you with your mindset.

It’s always so important to have good mentors. I often see entrepreneurs struggle with this, many failing to utilize one all-together. 

The fact is you need the right mentors to support you. Successfully building and running any business enterprise is a hard job, a lonely job. Mentors can help with your business processes and more importantly, your mindset, keeping you encouraged and motivated to keep you moving forward.

Posted on March 17th, 2020

Have you found your tribe? You need them.

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  • Community
  • Entrepreneur
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Your tribe–this is your community of like-minded people. In my previous blog, I talked about mentors. And mentors can come from your tribe. 

You don’t always have to ask or hire someone to be your mentor. Being open to advice and the expertise and experiences of others is already a mentorship. 

To source that, you need your community. 

Don’t leave yourself alone

When I first started this business seven years ago, my self-doubt was huge and loud. As I’ve said in my other blogs and videos, a lot of this has to do with perfectionism. 

Many entrepreneurs become business owners because of our Type-A personalities. We’re high-achieving workaholics. But on the flipside, we’re also impatient, sensitive and anxious. 

So we’re afraid of what other people will say, because we’re status-conscious. Other people’s comments can easily shatter our view of our reputation and abilities. 

I see this very often with entrepreneurs, especially when it comes to being recorded on video and putting themselves out on social media. 

Entrepreneurs– especially female entrepreneurs who have thrice as many restrictive societal expectations as men– can be really hesitant about getting out there, posting on social media or doing Facebook Live, because they’re afraid of what othersmight think. 

You might get nasty comments. You can probably already see them in your mind even before you post. This anxiety can beso crippling, but it’s also so easily remedied by believing in yourself and getting the right input to keep believing in yourself to stay in the mindset of growth and success. 

That “right input” comes from the right people. 

Find the right people

The nasty comments do happen. The important thing is not letting those nasty comments get to you. Remember, those people aren’t paying your bills. And more importantly, they’re not your people. 

Immerse yourself in a community of like-minded people. Maybe it’s women’s groups, entrepreneurs’ groups, women entrepreneurs’ groups. Find them. Join your tribe. 

These groups will support you and uplift you. They’re going through similar things in their lives,  entrepreneurs going through the same challenges. 

Connect with them, talk to them. It’s a give and take of support and encouragement. Your tribe will remind you of your worth, whenever you begin to doubt it. This is critical for your entrepreneurial journey.  

Posted on March 17th, 2020

How To Get Rid Of Self-Doubt

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  • Entrepreneur
  • Mindset
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Your mindset may be one of the reasons you’re not getting your desired results from your business.

It’s not just about the latest fancy digital marketing and social media strategies or the operations of your business or finances. All of those are helpful tools, and they are there to support you. 

But when all is said and done; you have to believe in yourself. 

Once you get your mindset right, then the other tools are much easier to implement, but if you don’t, you’ll find that you struggle with every step. You’ll keep second-guessing every decision you make. So you absolutely need to get rid of self-doubt to get into the right headspace so you can easily grow your business. 

Everything depends on how you view yourself

The right mindset translates into your business strategies and therefore your overall success. How you operate your business as you move toward your goals is directly related to how you view yourself. 

Think about it: do you find yourself jumping into new strategies easily, or do you always have a voice in your head saying it might not be right for you, or that you don’t have the skills, tools or funds to implement these new ideas? 

That’s your self-doubt talking, and it’s only goal is to make you feel like you’re not worthy. 

I started my business about seven years ago and I used to doubt myself A LOT!

I used to think that I wasn’t good enough to do this business. I thought to myself, “There’s a lot of people out there who are doing a much better job than me, who are more qualified than I am!”

You can see how this kind of thinking puts an incredibly negative spin on you mentally.

A lot of this negative thinking is due to your battle with perfectionism and being afraid of what other people say about you. 

But you’ll soon notice that what you’re thinking others might think about you are really just the negative thoughts YOU think about yourself! 

Once you’ve realize that, you’re well on your way to getting rid of self-doubt. 

Appreciate your gifts

Find a method or outlet that allows you to grow within your personal headspace. Remember, it’s in your mind, so you need to fix it in your mind. 

This may be meditation or journaling, or spending a few minutes with yourself, acknowledging the thoughts that come to the forefront, but also challenging them. 

For example, when negative thoughts arise, contradict them with an appreciation of the abilities and gifts you do have. 

Practice responding to, “I’m not good enough.” with “But I’m good at picking things up. I’ll learn anything quickly.”

It  is SO critical to make the time to do this in this very, very busy world. 

So many of us are juggling our families, our kids as well as running our businesses and catering to our clients. So often we forget that it’s so crucial NOT to forget ourselves. 

Pick a time to spend at least 5-10 minutes with yourself everyday! Appreciate yourself! Practice silencing the self-doubt and soon it will be made permanently quiet.